WE COULD BE GREAT FRIENDS!!!

              We could be great friends, don't you see that?
Us being friends would help us more than it would hurt us.
          Even with all of our unresolved issues we encountered as a couple we still managed to love each other so faithfully.  No matter how angry I've made you, you have never stopped loving me.  No matter how upset you have made me I have never not once stopped loving you.
        Why do people in love feel they need to be enemies once the romantic relationship has come to an end. Where does this misconception come from? This belief is the very reason why people that have been good friends for a period of time refuse to become involved in a romantic relationship no matter how strongly they feel for the other person. They are afraid that if the romance does not work out they will loose this person they have come to know as "FRIEND."
         Why does it have to be this way? If the person was your true friend from the get go they should always be your friend, depending on the circumstances. I am completely aware that heart break and betrayal could be a factor in the break up.  It is extremely difficult and sometimes almost impossible getting over situations that include these actions.  Maybe if we stopped allowing our HEARTS to lead the way at all times a lot of these devastation's could be avoided. When you see that its just not working out no matter what you've attempted to try, GET OUT!!! GET COUNSELING!! Do something different if what you've been doing is obviously not working.

       All you are doing is destroying any good that could be salvaged for a friendship later on. 

        Take people that are divorced with kids for instance.  You have some people that just refuse to be cordial because of what they may have gone through when they were married.  They will put their own personal emotions before the emotional well being of their children.  Do they not realize that they are teaching these children to hate and not forgive!
       You have some people that are extremely close with their ex's.
They go over for dinners and hang out as if they are still a FAMILY!!! Now that is so beautiful to me!!! Spouses getting along with ex spouses. Calling each other up to discuss matters dealing with the children and even personal matters.  Just getting along!
        
     Now I know some people may say, "I love them too much to be their friend."  Well if you really feel that way then try loving them enough to be their friend.  You never know what the friendship could lead to if you show another side of yourself.  You never know!! Maybe they may need a good friend more than anything in the world and you just may be the prime candidate to fill that position.  Don't loose out on everything just because you can't get exactly what you want and how you want it.  Trust me, I know! I've had to tell myself this over and over again.
         
            Friends now days are a rare species.  You can go a life time and never have a real and true friend that will be there for you no matter what.  Hold on to these people as long as you can.  Do it in a way that not only benefits you but that will benefit that other person as well. Be sure and hold on to the healthy parts also though.  If you keep having trouble with the romantic part of the relationship, well then that is probably the part you can do without, but if everytime you are in trouble or need someone to talk to and that person is the 1st person on the scene, no questions asked, you more than likely may need to keep that person on your support team.

            Don't allow your emotions to keep you from what you should have.

          I have a cousin that is so inlove with his ex it doesn't make any sense.  At one point he hated her all because she couldn't handle a romantic relationship with him. They had way too many issues. Their problems ended up turning them into 2 completely different people, bitter and mean most of the time.

         If you saw them out right about now you would think that they were the perfect couple but they are not in any type romantic relationship whatsoever.  They have an understanding that works for them. She helps him and he helps her.  They hang out and have fun and it works. Neither have to worry about the other getting angry if one can't provide quality time. Neither have to worry about the other going off and flipping out if the other starts seeing someone else.  Yes, they may feel some type of dislike towards the other seeing someone new. Why wouldn't they feel this emotion if a certain type of love still resides somewhere? However, because the understanding has already been established and everyone is upfront it makes the situation all that much easier.

      I wish that I could have that type of understanding with my ex. He is such a great person and has so much to offer to the world, why wouldn't I want all the good he has to offer. Why wouldn't I want to offer to him all the good that lies within me as well.

     Though this is something that I would want that surely doesn't mean it is something I will get. I just wish I could though. There is nothing wrong with wishful thinking.